M is finally having a long overdue surgery in two weeks. His pre-surgery physical is today, and last night, the thought of the physical today made the looming surgery very real, all the feelings about the surgery coming to the surface.
We talked quite a lot about it all, and the last of the conversation went like this:
M: You know, it’s going to crush me if this doesn’t work.
Me: I do know. I’ll be here, either way, whether it works or not. You know that?
M: I do. It’s the only thing I do KNOW.
That’s our foundation, our core.
We communicate openly and honestly, express ourselves freely, in both words and actions. There are fewer misfires and there’s discussion so that we learn from our mistakes. We let go and forgive. Our eyes are open wide; we see the other.
I’m so grateful. Beyond grateful; it’s safe, it’s HOME.
Everything else is a happy, amazing addition.